5+Stages+of+Grief

**Bargaining** occurs before the loss and includes the person trying to make a deal with god or that person in an attempt to keep them alive.
== **Depression** includes feelings of hopelessness, loss of motivation, self pity and sometimes suicidal feelings. The person may feel as though they can not live without that person. The person might feel a lack of control and may feel numb. == == **Acceptance** deals with realizing that the loss has occurred. This stage does not necessarily mean that you got over the loss but puts you in a place where you can continue you life. It allows you to deal with the feeling appropriately. ==

** Anger **
== Holden expresses a lot of anger through out this book because a lot of his peers make fun of him. Holden does no get to live a normal life so he gets angry because he doesn’t have all that many friends. Holden’s main cause of anger is toward Allie’s death because he was a good kid and didn’t deserve to die. Also Holden is angry because he wonders why Allie had to die and why that it wasn’t him. ==

** Depression **
== In Chapter 6 Holden is depressed and goes into the basement to express his pain. Holden goes into the garage to be alone and think through the idea his brother is gone forever. Holden breaks all the windows in the garage after he hears the news that his brother had passed away from leukemia. Holden is depressed that his brother has died and during depression it a reasonable for people to do dramatic things, like braking windows. ==

** Acceptance **
== Holden has a hard time accepting that Allie has passed. Holden has never been talked to by his parents to help him through this hard time. Holden never talks about Allies death, and doesn’t feel comfortable to talk about his younger brother’s death. Holden has not accepted Allies death yet. ==

** Bargaining **
== The third stage of grief is bargaining which often takes place before the loss. Holden is in this stage by taking to Allie sometimes and telling him that he’s sorry for reason he doesn’t even know why. For example Holden tells Allie to hurry up and go get his bike because Holden told Allie no one and he has regretted it ever since he died. ==